For as long as I can remember, I have been consumed by passions, an over developed sense of responsibility, and the desire to be in control. Sound familiar?
I planned each minute of every day, adhering to a
strict schedule devoid of any spontaneity. I went as far as to begin each
morning planning not just that day’s schedule, but contingency plans for every
conceivable variation. Well, I tried. I was the teachers’ darling, the
exemplary employee, the most responsible mom, a devoted wife — and I was
miserable.
Jesus’ admonishment to be “converted, and become
as little children” puzzled me. How could I be like a child when I was a
responsible adult, carrying the world on my shoulders? I couldn’t just drop
out. I had a husband and children to care for, a boss to obey.
Retirement removed most of my responsibilities, and
yet I still kept up the paranoid plotting and planning, believing if I planned
enough and worked hard enough, I could control everything in my life. It gave
me a false sense of security. I had a deep faith, but I trusted my own strength
first, only giving God the heavy stuff, when I felt backed into a corner.
When I recently re-read the passage from Matthew,
I finally understood the message. All the needless planning and plotting
created an old soul, weighed down by burdens God never intended that I should
carry.
Yes, I can plan, but casually without going into every
possible contingency. This revelation gave me a get-out-of-jail card. By relinquishing
control, I became as a child, trusting a loving Father to consul me, as well as
to supply my needs.
The old thought patterns still arise, but I shoo
them away. I don’t want to be trapped in the old lie again. I doubt I need to
worry about suddenly becoming an irresponsible or foolish senior. My sense of
responsibility is far too ingrained for that, but I can certainly work harder
to be a dependent, obedient child, accepting God’s guidance, freely and
cheerfully performing the tasks he sets before me.
What is on today's agenda? Other than the usual basics, I haven't a clue...
Good thoughts. Yes, it's good to plan your day and work your plan (my husband's least favorite saying), and yet we should be open to opportunities that arise. Sounds like you got it figured out. :) Thanks for sharing.
ReplyDeleteWell, I have it figured out at the moment. It will take some dedication not to fall back into the need to be in control and over planning, the compulsion to have a plan for every, tiny, minute contingency, which of course is simply not possible or rational. Better to have an outline....
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