Dolly Parton and the Psychology of Dieting

I never had to diet when I was young. Staying slim was easy since I was too busy to bother with food until necessary. Then, life changes altered both my diet and my metabolism, and I ended up on the diet merry-go-round.

It seems I must starve myself to lose a single pound, and that is a setup for failure, not to mention the damage to my blood sugar levels. I've tried many diets, but for one reason or another, did not find them sustainable.  

That’s when Dolly Parton stepped in with a better solution.

No, I don’t know her personally, but I remembered reading an interview with her several years back. The interviewer asked her how she lost weight and kept it off. Her reply was interesting, but at the time I didn’t need the advice and filed it away with other trivia — until now.

She said the only way she lost and maintained her weight was eating eight small meals a day. After trying everything else and failing, I decided to give it a try.

The next morning, I set up a schedule and using a calorie/carb counter, planned out my meals, staying within the recommendations of my doctor.

That first day, I discovered the eight-meal plan didn't allow enough calories in the morning to sustain my blood sugar levels, so I adjusted the meals to six and increased the portions accordingly. That worked better for me.

However, the biggest surprise came the first day. Knowing I only had to wait a few hours to have more, I was satisfied with the smaller portions, significantly cutting my calorie intake. I feel full, satisfied, and not deprived since I am not waiting to eat until I'm starving, or limiting my choices, only the amounts. The psychology of having more later, has made the difference. I think I'll stick to this one and actually see some weight loss.

Thank you, Dolly.

Concern, Worry, and Finding Peace

My father worried most of his life about many things, particularly whether he was good enough to enter heaven. During his last days, we tried to reassure him. We reminded him about God’s great love for us and His forgiveness of all our sins. I recounted the story of the Good Thief on the Cross and my visions of Jesus and heaven.

He remembered 1 Peter 4: 8: “And above all things have fervent charity among yourselves: for charity shall cover a multitude of sins.” We all agreed his generosity to others would nullify any failings.  

Yet, I still I worried and prayed for him to find peace. I even begged God to be good to him — and caught my breath. What was I saying, asking God to be good to him? I bowed my head, asked for forgiveness for my lapse of faith, and gave Daddy into God’s keeping. There is not a safer place than in His presence.

This holds true of everything else too.

I can be concerned about many things without carrying the burden of worry, especially after giving them to God. Who could love us more? Who would be more dedicated to giving us eternal life in a state of perfect happiness?

Daddy loved God, regretted his failings, and had asked for forgiveness. Isn’t that all God asks of us?

God granted me a blessing during my scripture readings. As I turned from the Old Testament to the Psalms, my Bible fell open to the Book of Tobias, who was famous for his generosity, just like Daddy.  

Chapter 14: 8: “And the rest of his life was in joy, and with a great increase in the fear of God he departed in peace.”

Thank you, Abba, for giving me this undeserved consolation. Your compassion and generosity are beyond my mortal understanding and expectation. I love you! 

In Memorial to a Wonderful Man - Ernest Walker April 28, 1929 - February 13, 2019

It's time to repeat a previous post in honor of a life well lived. My father passed away this morning from complications of prostate cancer. He touched the lives of so many through his generosity, his faith, and his humor. He literally gave the shirt from his back to someone in need, never missed Sunday Mass unless too sick to drive, sometimes driving a hundred miles to find a church. A self-taught naturalist and historian, it was fascinating to listen to him. Peppered in the with the interesting facts were funny stories, bad jokes, and of course tall tales. 

He was a retired logger, and my sister and I spent our childhood in the woods, camped a few miles from where he was working. Most often we were next to a lake or a creek - a wonderful way to spend childhood summers, except for my dad's tall tales.

Not only did we groan at the puns, my sister and I were often the stars of the tale.

One of these occasions, we were camped about a thirty-minute drive from the town of Silver Lake, up in the Gearheart Wilderness area. My father announced we were going to town for a Tube Steak dinner. All excited we loaded into the pickup truck and headed down the mountain. We never noticed the twinkle in his eyes, or the wink he gave the waitress when he placed our order. We waited impatiently for our Tube Steaks to arrive, unaware we were being duped.

 The waitress finally returned with plates piled high with French fries and something familiar looking in a bun. I looked at my sister and she looked at me. We shrugged, made faces at our dad and ate our steaks and fries. We notched this tale right up there with his stories of Jackalopes (a cross between a Jackrabbit and an antelope) and Gosh Awfuls.

Now the Gosh Awful is a horrible creature who lives in the woods and preys on unsuspecting girls walking alone along any of the trails, night or day. In an unguarded moment  he springs from his hiding place and does Gosh Awful things, like tickling, or Indian hair rubs, or saying, "BOO", and causing said girls to run screaming.

And, added to this, all of my dad's tall stories started out with, "When I was a little girl...." Even at a very early age, we knew better.

Then of course, there were the road trips. My dad read the road signs and made comments.

"Slow Children must go to the Slow School."

"Speed [for] 50 miles."

"It is very likely we will drive through the town of Likely."

In Death Valley. "250 feet below sea level. Better hold your breath."

At the Grand Canyon. "Golly what a gully."

There were many more, but I can't recall all of them (or have space to write them). 

Then, there were the mosquito stories like the poor logger unmercifully attacked at a local sawmill. He raced for cover in an unused metal sawdust burner. In their zeal to get the man, the mosquitoes drove their proboscis right through the metal. Finding a discarded hammer, the man pounded their snouts flat like nails. There were so many mosquitoes, they flew off the with the building and the man. He was never seen again. 

There are a lot of mosquitoes in the area. The town of Paisley has a Mosquito festival every year. (I'm not kidding.)

There were also Poodle cookies and Mongrel cookies. Poodle cookies don't shed, but the Mongrels do.

While driving through Goldfield, Nevada we stopped at the Green Frog grocery for cookies. I was a little worried when I had to blow the dust off the packages to read the labels. My dad assured us a little age would only enhance their flavor, like good wine. My sister and I were a little skeptical, but agreed to buy both Poodle and Mongrel cookies. After all, we didn't want to discriminate. 

My dad suggested we stop at the diner for pie and save the cookies for later. It was the first time I had seen blueberry pie snap back together when I tried to cut it. My dad agreed the pie, and the waitress, might both have been left over from the 1880 Gold Rush.

Jokes aside, I've stood in virgin timber, watched sunrises over lakes and creeks, sunsets from mountain tops above a sea of unbroken forest stretching from horizon to horizon. I've been to every national park and historical site from the Pacific Ocean to Tennessee. I've learned to love nature, books, art, and history thanks to my father, sick puns, practical jokes, tall tales, and all.